How I Help

Lots of people come to therapy because relationships feel hard in ways they can’t quite explain. You might find yourself longing for closeness, yet pulling away when it appears. Or staying too long, over-giving and second-guessing yourself. Perhaps you feel unseen even with people you love. People often describe this showing up in different ways, such as:

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• Feeling anxious, avoidant, or confused in close relationships

• Repeating familiar but painful dynamics in relationships

• Struggling with trust, boundaries, or emotional closeness

• Feeling “too much” or “not enough” with others

• Feeling controlled or the need to control

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Working "Relationally" in therapy is particularly impactful at addressing these challenges. The therapeutic relationship is the therapy. ​Together, we give attention to safety, pacing, rupture and repair. We develop curiosity about how patterns may have formed, rather than pathologising them and we work with what shows up between us in the present rather than just looking at your past.

 

If it feels helpful, you can read more about how this work applies to specific experiences under the links that follow.